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Fellatio: Going Down/Blowjobs for Him

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Fellatio is an often neglected activity that many people abandon once they have progressed to penetrative intercourse. It’s a welcome activity that many guys enjoy as much as or more than traditional vaginal or anal sex. Sexy times can be had almost anywhere too so this allows for a lot of great fantasy play on the go.

Some people don’t feel as though they know what to do when approached with the male anatomy. Check out our male anatomy page to learn more. You can also attend one of our in-store classes. They are fun, educational and guaranteed to provide you with lots of suggestions for your next oral session.

Communication is very important in any kind of sexual activity. A little chat about where he would like to come is important. Partners may also want to know when their partner is going to come. Some guys would like you to accept their ejaculate (load/semen) in their mouth. The problem with this is that some people swallow semen while others don’t. Negotiating where the semen is going to end up doesn’t have to be a problem if you don’t swallow. You can have them come in your vagina (if a woman), anus (any gender), between breasts or anywhere else on the body or you can offer to finish him off with your hands. You can also provide a towel or tissues for them to come in or take the semen into your mouth and then spit it out elsewhere. A little communication avoids hurt feelings.

Your partner may have an STI or other communicable disease. You can use condoms for oral sex. There are a wide variety of condoms available, made out of latex and polyurethane for people with latex allergies. Plain, lubricated condoms may not taste the best for some. Consider flavoured ones as an alternative. Similarly, if you plan on using your hands on someone who has an STI, think about using latex or nitrile gloves (good for people with latex allergy).

As mentioned above, oral for him is very portable so you can do it anywhere. Unfortunately, many people who do oral find it sometimes hurts their neck or jaw. Liberator shapes has designed sex furniture that fits many body types. It’s sleek and sexy-looking but discreet enough that no one will know what it’s used for. You can also change positions from kneeling in front to reclining to standing. As you transition from one position to another, allow your hands to take over. This will give your mouth and neck some time to rest. If he is not completely wet, consider using a natural lubricant.

To freshen up beforehand, you can give your partner a sex shower or bath. Try lightly dragging your nails all over his skin and through his pubic hair to pull out loose ones (if he doesn’t shave there). Towel him off. Consider talking dirty to him. (Don’t know how to talk dirty? Sign up for one of our classes here.) Enthusiasm is appreciated. Admiring his genitalia and tell him you want to give him this gift can be arousing for some men.

You can lick and kiss your way down (or up, depending on your position) there, tweaking nipples and nibbling along the way. The head (glans) is generally the most sensitive part with the shaft not feeling as much. The scrotum (sac that holds the testicles/balls) is generally very sensitive. Some will want it to be touched and played with while others will reject it. Other sensitive spots include: the coronal ridge, frenulum, perineum and anus (see male anatomy). Generally, most men like wide welcoming licks done with a flat tongue. Wetting the head to the shaft (and scrotum, if they like that) is a good beginning. Licking around and under the coronal ridge and frenulum can be very pleasurable. Some people like to have the crevice of their opening explored too. Others may find this is too sensitive.

Some people circle the head with their tongue and then engulf it with their mouth. For people who are new to fellatio, taking the penis into your mouth can sometimes feel a bit intimidating. You may have to train yourself to breathe more through your nose or to take breaks so that that you can breathe through your mouth. It doesn’t mean you have to stop, just replace the motion with your hand. By placing your thumb and pointer finger into an okay sign, you can provide the same kind of friction (maybe more than your mouth does). Some guys may not even be able to tell when you are changing back and forth between mouth and hands.

Giving good head is not only about sucking and licking but also about suction. Sucking the cheeks in while you have him in your mouth or throat provides a different sensation. Generally speaking, rhythmic up and down motions or circling with head while going up and down work well. Some men like you to constantly stay in your mouth while others may prefer to be popped in and out as your lips tighten around his head as he goes in and out.

Want to change up the sensation a bit for him? Try adding a bullet vibe at the base of his scrotum or next to his perineum. Men have a prostate gland that can be stimulated externally from this position.

The perineum and anus are spots that are full of pleasurable nerve endings. Some guys have hang-ups around having this area touched. Respect those feelings but let him but let him know that you think it would be hot to try something there. If you will be licking around his anus, consider a Glyde dental dam. Put a drop or two of lube on the skin side to make it feel more natural. If your partner okays it, try inserting a finger to stimulate his prostate gland. You can also use a toy designed for prostate play such as the Aneros, or anal beads. Some of these devices have vibration while others do not. Some people like a butt plug to just be placed in there from beginning to end. This can be gently moving around or left in place. Make sure it has a flared base and that you use adequate lube. Silicone lube is great for butt toys but generally has a bitter taste.

To change up his sensation, you can also tickle his body with feathers, apply nipple clamps or suction cups. Warming or cooling lube can also be applied and blown on. Glass or metal butt plugs (soaked in warm or cool water) can be inserted to deliver temperature changes that are fun to play with. Sipping a swig of a hot or cold beverage while going down can also be pleasurable.

When he’s ready to come, he may begin to thrust, breathe more heavily and/or make moaning sounds. You may also want to agree upon how he will tell you when he is going to come (verbally, a tap on the head, etc.) If you are not planning on swallowing his ejaculate (cum/semen), you can switch over to your previously negotiated plan of finishing him off. If he is going to ejaculate in you have a condom ready.



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