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BDSM in the Mainstream

Wicked Wanda's BDSM Consent Jean Samick Kink sexpert Wicked Wanda's

 By: Jean Samick

BDSM has become wildly popular lately, no longer strictly for horny bachelorette parties or bored housewives looking to be scandalized. Kink is something most can get on board with, whether it be solo or exploring their partner’s wilder side. BDSM’s new found popularity can likely be attributed to it becoming more mainstream; with kink workshops, themed literature and movies popularizing getting on with one’s bad self. Now everyone can get information on BDSM and safely, try out some of their innermost fantasies as easily as hitting up their neighbourhood sex shop or googling the best way to use butt-plugs.

BDSM incorporates everything from roleplay to bondage to submission and dominance. It’s not just whips and chains (unless you’re into that), it can be handcuffs and blindfolds, dressing up and getting spanked as the naughty schoolgirl or getting teased and denied an orgasm all day until a set time. BDSM is so broad there’s something for everyone, and typically the fun four letter acronym is used as an umbrella term for everything a little freaky.

Submission and dominance are one of the more common threads of BDSM and encompasses sadomasochism and switches, who bounce between dominant and submissive roles. Bondage and discipline are another common branch of BDSM that involve submission and dominance, as well as Master and Slave specific play which can be both in the bedroom and carry through into real life outside of it. These power games are based off consent, which can be withdrawn at any time during the act with the use of a safe word and are typically discussed well in advance or immediately before by both consenting parties.

While there is a lot of information out there about BDSM culture and what it encompasses, there is equally as much misinformation based off of interpretations of that culture. 50 Shades of Grey is the most commonly read BDSM novel that does not in any way represent what a common and healthy BDSM relationship would be. BDSM culture is about control and communication like the storyline of 50 Shades of Grey, but the difference is both parties are supposed to feel safe. When a BDSM relationship is initially broached a conversation about boundaries, limits and consent takes place. Safe words and communication is paramount. "When two people want to get involved, their negotiation is up front," Sex Educator Robert Dunlap has said, "They are going to have a safe word: 'When I say, it ends. Period.' Most use a stop sign. Green means 'go.' Yellow means 'caution' and 'red' ends it.” Dunlap interviewed hundreds of fetishists for his 2001 film Beyond Vanilla, which looks at the kink’s people seek out to fill a void in their plain sex lives.

So get naughty, try new things and discover new ways to have fun with yourself or partner. If you never explore something that tickles your fancy, you may miss out on a world of pleasure you never expected. Don’t worry about diving in, there are plenty of opportunities to talk to local experts, take in a workshop or two, or seek out some information in the privacy of your home.

 Jean Samick

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