Non Sexy Alternative Uses for SexToys and Tools

By Wicked Wanda's
on May 27, 2016
Non Sexy Alternative Uses for SexToys and Tools
  1. Vibration on sore muscles for massage. Of course vibration can be used for more than just sexual purposes but legendary toys like the Hitachi Magic Wand (or the Smart Wand by Lelo) has always been marketed as a "body" massaging tool rather than a sex toy and it is totally understandable. Used on the back, shoulders, legs or anywhere your muscles could use a deeper massage without needing another person to do it!

  1. Silicone lube as hair care and thigh friction. Silicone lube has so many applications but some of the best are as pre-blow-drying hair care to make sure your hair is protected from the heat and as a lubricant for friction caused by rubbing thighs especially in the summer. You can even use silicone lube as a makeup primer! 

  1. Cock rings as napkin holders. While it may seem ridiculous to use cock rings for your next dinner party they can be a great way of decorating your place-settings without getting too expensive. They are also fantastic because you can totally customize them and make it a craft party!

  1. Nipple clamps for holding pictures, glasses or signs. Don't you just hate is when you have to hang something and that something requires two well gripping grabbers and you don't have anything for it, fear not! Use your nipple clamps! 

  1. Suction cups for massage. Using larger suction cups and applying massage oil onto the skin can be used to give an awesome reverse massage where instead of pushing the skin and muscles downwards you can pull them upwards. 

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  1. Anal plugs as doorstoppers. Worried your door handle is going to damage your walls? Use an anal plug, you can get a variety of sizes that work for whatever situation you may have and they can be fairly inexpensive! 

  1. Liberator furniture for yoga. Liberator is known for their fantastic sex furniture but why not use it for your next yoga session? They are machine washable so you don't have to worry about sweating on it and you can achieve that deeper back bend or really challenge your next downward dog.

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  1. Violet wand for pimple zapping and skin care. Popularly used within kink communities, the violet wand is also used in highend spas and beauty parlors to help dry out oily and pimple prone skin. Next time you have a zit forming, apply on and off for 5 minutes and your zit should dry up and go away without any damage to your skin. 

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  1. Wartenberg wheels for baking or crafts. Getting even holes without the tedious work of doing every single one yourself can be done with the Wartenberg wheel or pin-wheel. For baking and crafts! 

  1. Arousal balm for pumping up your lips. While you can use these balms on your sexy wiggly bits, they can also be used as a lip balm and lip pumpers because they work by increasing blood flow to that area. Pucker up!

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8 Kink Essentials for Play

By Wicked Wanda's
on April 30, 2016
8 Kink Essentials for Play

By: Lilith

As kink and BDSM become more mainstream and growing in popularity, sexstores are increasingly trying to meet the demand and thus there are so many different tools, toys and learning material to get you started on your kinky path. Where to start, what to get and how to use them become important questions for beginners and even those more advanced in their exploration. Here we have listed Wicked Wanda's top 8 kink kit essentials for those experimenting and exploring. Of course, it is highly debatable what are essential kink items and every kinkster will have a slightly different kit depending on the type of play they enjoy and so on. Experimentation is one of the best parts of kink so try out a couple of tools and toys and see what works.

Note: Kink and BDSM functions on a key rule: Safe, Sane. Consensual. If play ever breaks this rule then no longer is it kink and BDSM and often it will be considered illegal and dangerous. 

1. Blindfold: Blindfolds are a perfect way to start experimenting with kink for aesthetic and practical purposes. While a blindfold can be a great way to set a scene and get someone in the mode, it can also relieve pressure and nervousness for both partners. The submissive partner or the person being dominated becomes released from responsibility of what is happening. They are no longer in charge and can relax and submit to their partner's actions. There is a wonderful saying that there is "happiness in submission" and this is largely the appeal for submissives or slaves. The Dominant partner also becomes released from having to perform in some senses. Of course they are still instigating the play but say they drop a toy or stumble in their heels, the submissive cannot see this and therefore the Dominant also becomes released from their nervousness and can relax into the role without pressure. Of course the primary purpose of a blindfold is to block a person from seeing, which can sharpen other senses and sensations and they no longer know where the sensations may come from--heightening the thrill and surprise. All playing should be spoken about before engaging in play especially once the submissive partner becomes more immobilized, this is to ensure consent and a pleasurable fulfilling experience for all involved. 

 

2. Bondage Tape: When beginning to experiment with bondage, safety becomes extremely important. You can start your bondage exploration with many different types of toys and tools such as handcuffs, rope, leather cuffs and so forth but the safest and often most cost efficient tool is bondage tape. Many of the other tools often leave marks and require a certain level of training to use properly and safely with fun results, bondage tape however requires very little learning and can be quite versatile. This kind of tape is unique because it does not have adhesive but rather the material sticks to itself creating a nice firm hold without residue that your partner may be sensitive too. Another positive is that with enough force, your partner can break from the bondage tape if needed. Whether you want to do a simple wrist tie to a bed-frame or door, or hogtie someone, this tool is safe enough and versatile enough to handle your creativity. You can even use the tape as a gag or blindfold because it has no adhesive.

 

Note: Never wrap tape or any other kind of bondage material around the neck. This is very dangerous and can easily lead to serious injuries or death. If you want to experiment with breath play or withholding oxygen, do some serious research first and discuss with your partner in depth. Most kinksters and kink stores like Wicked Wanda's do not suggest any kind of breath play because of the level of danger.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

3. Feather Duster or Crop: When experimenting with different sensations, pain is not always the goal. In fact, many kinksters prefer very little pain in their play, instead focusing more on mind-games, role-playing or sensation play. A feather duster is a great way to experiment with sensitive spots without intimidating your partner or risking any kind of harm. You can explore your partner's body or your own and often pairing this with some bondage and sense-deprivation like blindfolds or gags can enhance the sensation of the feathers. Crops are fun as well if you want to lean more to domination or little to mild pain. The wonderful advantage of crops are that they are extensions of your hand and so you can guide and control your partner with the crop head and correct them if need be. This can be a very fun way to tease and do some role-playing without getting hardcore. Crops are easy to wield and often are not overly painful. Again playing with the sensation spectrum, crops allow for sensual exploration without much training or practice. 

Note: Even with little play like using a crop there are still areas of the body you should avoid hitting in case of injury and/or permanent damage. This includes head, neck, spine, stomach (kidneys and bladder don't like being hit at all), joints (shoulders, hips, elbows, ankles and knees). Many of these are common sense areas not to hit however it is best to clarify with your partner and ask if they have any sore spots or a bad arm for example. Remember that meaty areas like the butt, thighs, and back (across the shoulder-blades) are great places to hit depending on what your partner wants. Safe, Sane and Consensual always. 

 

 

4. Paddles: One of my personal favorites for kink play is a simple wooden paddle. There are many different kinds of paddles, made of different materials like leather, plastic, rubber, metal and plexi-glass but a classic is classic for a reason and wood rocks aesthetically and practically. For some, paddles have a wonderful sound upon impact that they love and crave, whereas others love the soft but firm impact itself. Generally used as a spanking tool due to its often non-flexible design, a paddle can make a domFind our selection in storeinant feel powerful and a submissive feel pleasurably helpless. As with any play, especially impact play, partners should discuss boundaries and what they are willing to try (soft-limits) and not (also known as hardlimits). Many who start spanking will use a flat hand for heighten control of where the impact lands and for the intimacy of skin on skin contact, others prefer to use a paddle so to not wear out their hands. Even for some, it is the threat of the paddle which brings excitement and tension into a scene, whether it is used or not. Of course, be careful where you hit and follow the guidelines above. Also do some research before you start leaving marks on people's body. 

Note: Most kinksters, whether they are doing impact play or experimenting with pain or bondage or not, will have a safe word that a submissive can use if the play becomes too hard or they are uncomfortable for any reason and want to stop. Some prefer using a colour system where green is good, yellow is nearing the edge and red is stop. Others prefer a word they would never use in play to signal the dominant to stop like pineapple or hedgehog. Make sure it is easy for both you and the dominant to remember and when the word or colour is used, this means to immediately stop. If your submissive cannot speak because of a gag or other reasons, make sure to provide another method to communicate with. A pair of keys is a great way to make noise signalling the dominant to stop when they are drop out of the submissive's hand. While hopefully the safeword is never needed, it is important to have this safety measure to ensure safe and fun play and to put all parties at ease. 

 

5. The Hitachi Magic Wand or other Vibes: An exciting part of kinky play is the tease and sexual gratification or even withholding an orgasm to further tease. This can be a kind of consensual torture to stimulate the submissive with vibrating toys or wandering hands yet not allow release or to dictate when release is allowed. Many kinksters love the Hitachi Magic Wand due to its power, durability and long-lasting life (Check out Lilith's review of the rechargeable HERE). Pick a favorite vibe and tease your submissive. This can be for submissives of any gender, the trick is to experiment with what gets an reaction. 

6. Rope: When exploring how creative your bondage arrangements can be, rope can often be considered essential for its extremely versatile applications and the beautiful visual appeal of it on the body. This is not as user-friendly as bondage tape because to use it properly and to its fullest capacity one should check out; rope classes, workshops and tutorials. There are dangers when playing with rope which include nerve-damage, suffocation, and bruising, so being safe and careful about how you More colours and types in storeuse rope is important. Youtube has many fantastic videos to help teach you from the comforts of your home. There are also many different kinds of rope including silk, bamboo silk, hemp, cotton and Jute. All of them have different textures, strength and price tags. Often beginners start with silk or cotton ropes because they are inexpensive but they do start to fringe and breakdown over time quicker than others. Experiment with what texture and strength you need within your budget to see what works for you. There are so many different colours as well! 

7. Gags: There are many types of gags which you can play with, including the traditional ball gag, breathers (with holes for easier breathing), open gags, spider gags, and etc. There are also different sizes to best fit the submissive's mouth. Look for a gag with nice soft edges near the mouth so to make sure your submissive's mouth won't be cut or bruised by wearing the gag. As another form of sense- deprivation, gags block the submissive from speaking and thus makes them more helpless and the dominant more powerful and in control. They can also help to limit the amount of noise made if your neighbors are close by. Remember to give the submissive another way to communicate if they have reached their limit. 

 

Note: While it is often stressed that the submissive should have a safeword and be in control of the situation ending if they react their limit, many forget that dominants are people with limits as well. A dominant should also be able to stop play if it gets too intense or they feel uncomfortable without feeling ashamed or afraid of disappointment. Whether they use a word or simply stop the play, dominants also need to be considered during play. Submissives who push their dominant's past their comfort lines are enacting a kind of dangerous topping from the bottom and often this is a good indicator of an unhealthy BDSM or kink relationship, just as a dominant pushing a submissive past their limits raises warning flags as well. Aftercare therefore, is for both partners-not just the submissive.

 

 

 

8. Nipple Clamps: Another tool for sensation play which can causes pain or heightened sensitivity, nipple clamps are versatile and vary considerably based on type, size and material. Some are used to decorate the body while others are used during play, and this largely depends on what kind of experience you are looking for. Often beginners should start with very adjustable clamps because it is difficult to know how hard a submissive can take. Tweezer clamps are great for this but check out all the other different kinds because while function is important aesthetic is too. Don't keep nipple clamps on too long for they do cut off blood-flow. Generally, your submissive will tell you if they have lost feeling in their nipples and this is a good sign to take of the clamps. You can also use clamps on the vaginal lips, clitoris or the scrotum, have fun experimenting and trying out what gets your submissive wiggling. 

This is only a small list of some tools and toys to consider when exploring the wonderful and creative world of kink. It doesn't take a ton of money or time to try out these 8 things but it does take some research. Come into  Wicked Wanda's and chat with our knowledgeable staff or look up some books to get you started. We also have interesting workshops every month to give you ideas and/or to sharpen your skills.   

Play safe my kinky friends.

 

 

 

 



 

Foot Fetishes

By Wicked Wanda's
on January 14, 2016
Foot Fetishes

 by: Jean Samick

Most people have an appreciation for some new shoes, or even the occasional pedicure. But how many people out there get aroused at the sight of some nice looking feet? Quite a few actually, as Podophilia claims to be the most common of the fetishes, with tons of groups and online forums to support it. There are also plenty of famed foot enthusiasts to support this claim, with Elvis Presley and Andy Warhol as historical representations, and people like Quentin Tarantino among the more recent. Tarantino’s foot fetish is fairly well documented in his films, and he’s come clean about it in several interviews unabashedly. This shameless admittance to a fetish takes the taboo out of it and by working feet subtly into each film he shows how this fetish is more than sexual, it’s a form of art.

Just because famous people do it doesn’t mean it’s common, but there’s plenty of science behind this fun little form of freakiness. “There are many reasons feet are said to be arousing. Feet are often the first part of a mother or father which a toddler touches.” Dr. Brenda Love theorizes in her Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices. “Likewise, parents often play with toddlers’ by pushing them with their feet or letting them ride one of their feet.” This theory links with others that the skin of the feet, with the tautness and shine of the skin being the focus of visual arousal paired with the subconscious connection to nurturing and sexuality.

Dr. Aggrawal had a more straightforward theory in his book Forensic and Medico-legal Aspects of Sexual Crimes and Unusual Sexual Practices. “It has been suggested that the foot’s shape is distinctly phallic and is viewed by the fetishist to replicate the female or male genitals or the shape of a female body. Another view is that the feet and the genitals are in the same visual window, and when looking at one, the other will be in view as well; thus the two become associated in the mind.” Whether by visual association or by deep seated emotional connections to your upbringing, feet aren’t a substitute for human intimacy. One of the consistencies found in a lot of these studies is that foot fetishists not only maintain healthy relationships, but are also typically successful getting their partners on board with the fun.

There is no connection between Podophilia and other fetishes, nor is there between any sexual preference. Gay, straight and everything in between can enjoy a set of feet. The only common link seems to be its prevalence in men above women. This could be because of women’s feet maintaining a nicer aesthetic than men’s, but appearance alone does not sell the foot. The interest lies in everything from foot treatments like pedicures and massages to the smell and feel of it. And let’s not forget good old tactile interaction- the smelling, licking and sexual use of feet. Whatever it is, its popularity is rising and becoming more mainstream and with it the normalcy and acceptance of freaky fun!

Jean Samick

Role Playing

By Madelaine Dorion
on January 14, 2016
Role Playing

By: Lilith

“The element of play has an important role in my life, and I think that should be the case in the life of every artist. Our life is occupied with playing, whether we play an instrument or a role.” –Dietrich Fischer- Dieskau

Our popular culture as of late has been so thoroughly saturated with a certain kind of role-playing that it is hard to imagine any other kinds, or why anyone outside of hardcore kinksters would want to enjoy it… thanks a lot Fifty Shades. Yet the essential core of role-playing is not situated in the darkest, scariest dungeon for most, but is instead based upon a change in scenery or a change in the motions. Arguably, we has human beings are always playing roles, whether that be our gender or our professions, or perhaps as entertaining friend and supportive family member, these are all roles. Many believe these to be simply inherent in life and in a sense that is true, because we have established as a culture that that is how our social system works: you must have one gender, you must have one profession, and you must be one person at all times. Yet, these constraints on ourselves can be subverted and it is often through that subverting that we can find pleasure and sometimes find a place where we truly feel like ourselves.

There is immense power in being able to decide who and what you are. Whether for erotic purposes or not, role-playing is a wonderful exercise in the meaning and use of power. Some would understand power as inherently oppressive or problematic as the saying that power corrupts is common among our culture and popular in movie plotlines- power is simply the interaction between beings. This includes the power people have when they freely give their power to another or when that person accepts that power with respect and a humbling appreciating of that gift. You see this kind of loving exchange of power in fulfilling Dominant and Submissive relationships, where the submissive has a resounding amount of power because they have the ability to give it to their Dominant. Yet, the exchange of power within role-play goes beyond the dungeon and BDSM relationship; you can find it when people use the scenario of teacher/ students, employer/ employee, or doctor/ patient. While these kinds of dynamics can breed abuse and illegal activities in active life, within a safe and agreed upon circumstance the power dynamic can be heightened or completely changed for sexual arousal in a positive and fulfilling way.

There are many types of role-playing, really too many to list, and often mainstream society feels uncomfortable with some of them because they may seem deviant or problematic if practiced in active life. This may include Priest/ Choirboy, Mommy/ Child or the feminization of men for example. What must be stressed here is that those who participate in role-playing for erotic purposes (and many people do), they do not necessarily want to practice those roles outside in their active life and in fact the reasons why some enjoy the schoolgirl look (for example) is complicated and does not mean that that individual wants to have sexual relations with an underage girl. Remember that power dynamics are always in play in our lives and during role-playing, power can be even more relevant as for example- an individual may feel less powerful around a person dressed like a schoolgirl because it reminds them of the dynamics in highschool and this arouses them.

For some, they explore role-playing because they want to spice up their sex life and this can be achieved in many different ways. A scene can be set by using only one piece of clothing or an entire outfit, perhaps one toy or an entire stage of props. For some, they enjoy role-playing by pretending they do not know a partner but instead meet them for the “first time” in a bar. Essentially what I am saying is that role-playing can be a wonderfully creative expression of love and sexuality and that there is no one formula for everyone to follow. What I do caution for those interested in role-play is that you do it in a relationship with a partner you trust. While this may seem limiting, it is because role-playing successfully requires a lot of communication between people and without trust and respect already established the power dynamics could turn problematic and abusive. Consent is so important and if things are not discussed beforehand then there is no consent, which is illegal. The element of surprise should be sacrificed in this sense. An option is to have an agreed upon signal such as a certain necklace or pair of socks which indicates that your partner is interested in enacting a previously agreed upon scene, and that the other partner has signaled in their own way through an agreed upon statement that they are also interested. Communication is absolutely necessary with role-playing.

So why not try spicing it up? With communication and some planning, your night could turn into a fantasy which is titillating and erotic in a safe and positive environment. Open up to your partner about fantasies you have and be open to theirs as well. Being supportive and non-judgmental leads to better relationships, sex and role-playing for all involved. Start with an outfit or prop and experiment from there. Above all, remember that sex is supposed to be fun and fantasies are just an extension of that.

So may your fantasies come true.

 By: Lilith

Check out our workshops for fun ways to spice up your bedroom!

A Conversation about Online Fetish Communities

By Wicked Wanda's
on January 14, 2016
A Conversation about Online Fetish Communities

By: Jean Samick

Gone are the days when people had to hide their unconventional wants and desires. In this day and age, letting ones freak flag fly high and proud is less shocking than it used to be and online communities for fetishists have popped up all over the internet. Some like FetLife and Fetster have over millions of users indulging their wild sides, and there’s no end to the freaky content available at your fingertips. Talking about where to buy furry costumes or the fastest way to tie Shibari aren’t exactly things that you can talk about at your weekly book club. These online communities provide a stable and safe place where they can get information and share ideas with other like-minded adults.

 

FetLife is one of the better known online fetish communities that boast just over 4 million users in just under 100,000 groups sharing pictures, blog posts and advice across forums ranging from mainstream to niche kink. It’s free, but does require signing up, something which the website consistently assures protects privacy of its users first and foremost. The people who run the website are kinksters themselves, so no shame or judgement is thrown around and it’s a completely safe and accepting community of people who share naughtier interests. FetLife’s wealth of information is not to go unmentioned either; those feeling out new fetishes or seeking guidance about safety and limitations have the ability to talk to seasoned experts. Fetishists really love to talk about their hobbies if you’re interested in listening.

Fetster is another well-known online community with much the same highlights and a few tiny differences. While FetLife makes it known in their About page that the website is not a meat market, Fetster seems to lean more towards using their site as a dating or hook-up website. It puts focus on the websites ability to seek people out specifically, rather than talking to groups of people about interests. It boasts the ability to narrow your search for someone based on details like sexual orientation, gender and kink, and doesn’t limit the amount of messages that can be sent per hour. It works much like a kinky Facebook, with friend groups and instating messaging.

Like anything else, precautions must be taken and safety is of the utmost importance. We’re not talking about safe words and having lube nearby, we’re talking thinking long and hard about what kind of information you want to disclose online. Remember that everything online is permanent, and while safety precautions are in place to protect information, be aware that people online may keep track of it themselves. Think about how private you want to keep your private life, and know your limitations going in and what details to put in your profile. If you play it safe, these online communities can be a nurturing environment for your inner kinkster and a source of support for those just trying things out.

By: Jean Samick

Sexpertise: Sex Furniture

By Wicked Wanda's
on January 09, 2016
Sexpertise: Sex Furniture

By: Jean Samick

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Sex furniture. The title does not exactly scream “Family friendly for every living room!’. And I’m not talking about sexy furniture, I’m talking about pieces that can be used to enhance your sexual experiences. The furniture needn't be large-scale, however. Most is easily storable, comes in a variety of sizes for a variety of appetites.

 The Wedge by Liberator

Let’s break down what we’re talking about here. Sex furniture can be anything from the ever-popular sex swing to wedge pillows and toy mounts. Some pieces can go as large as couches and permanently installed harnesses and straps, while others are as small as a sex stool.

Wedges and ramps are various types of pillows that can be used to assist penetration by using the incline to raise hips or support weight during tricky positions. They’re pretty tame as far as sex furniture goes, and typically have machine washable covers and aren’t obvious should you leave them out accidentally when guests come by. They often come with fun add ons like restraints and cuffs, and are relatively cheap.

Sex swings are also a common piece of sex furniture, and can range from occasional use structures to more permanent installations. Hugely popular for those with disabilities, sex swings are fun for everyone liking a little adventure. Often sex swings can be bought with frames, or with the hardware to put them in the ceiling. For safety’s sake, stick to the one with the frame unless you are a confident handyman or know a discreet one. Since the person in the swing has their entire body weight suspended and restrained, the results of the attachment coming out of the ceiling can be both expensive and painful for more than just your dignity.

 Toy Mount by Liberator

Stripper Poles are easily installable for any ceiling height, and don’t always require permanent installation. Novelty aside, the hidden advantage to the stripper pole is that it is intensely physical to the point that pole dancing classes exist and have grown in popularity. Being able to use it for fitness as well as seduction is great, and make it a worthwhile purchase if you can use it for more than just romance. Some of the tricks take a few tries to learn, but rest assured once the Guns ’n’ Roses start all inhibitions will melt away.

 Ultimate Sex Swing

 Rimming chairs, sex stools, loungers and other pieces are slightly less common, but still worth checking out. Whether you’re lightly into BDSM or a heavy investor, most sex furniture can be easily dismantled and stowed if space is hard to come by in your home. It doesn’t need to break the bank either; most of the above options have cheaper versions for beginners and pricier models for those looking to invest in their sexuality. Solo or partnered, able or disabled, there’s something for everyone out there.

 The Hipster by Liberator

Jean Samick

The Liberator brand is a fantastic company with many high-quality sex furniture options. Come into Wicked Wanda's today to see our large selection of Liberator harnesses, and furniture.

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Sexpertise: Impact Play

By Wicked Wanda's
on January 09, 2016
Sexpertise: Impact Play

By: Jean Samick

Impact play is the term used to describe the act of a Dominant striking the Submissive for the purpose of sexual arousal. Impact play can be everything from a few spanks to the use of whips and flogs, and includes a variety of smackers for every interest. Whips can be anything from a singled tailed bullwhip like a sexy Indiana Jones, or a more complex cat o’ nine tails type whip commonly called floggers. Other things like belts and canes are also commonly used in impact play with lesser used types at either end of the spectrum. The narrower the tail, the sharper the sting, and thicker items tend to have a more impactful thud on the skin.

The act can be pretty enjoyable and stimulating to the fat or muscular areas of the body. Good areas include the butt, middle back and thighs, but it’s recommended that people avoid joints, the fleshy abdomen and any boney areas like the hip bones or head and neck. The type of toy used has an impact (zing!) on the type of mark it leaves, with thinner switches differing from flat paddles.

Some whips and flogs will only leave light welts that disappear in a few hours while others may leave more lasting impressions. Scientifically, the smaller the area space being smacked the more concentrated the shock waves that travel over the surface of your skin. Wider toys like paddles and smackers affect a wide area and have a more spread out surface reaction. As with all toys, it’s important to keep all smackers in good shape. Any rough edges or broken leather can harm or break the skin, not to mention house bacteria.

Newcomers to the fetish should recognize the difference between impact play and abuse before embarking on any physical fun. Impact play has a Dom/Sub relationship, and because of the physicality of play it is absolutely necessary to establish boundaries and discuss barriers. A safe word is a good place to start, and for those bound for giggles at the mere thought can use an old faithful like “Cinnamon’. By incorporating a safe word, explicit consent can be given during situations when normal indicators like discomfort are more common. In times of being muted or gagged, a safe signal like a peace sign or dropped ball could be used.

All acts of impact play should be consensual, but don’t think this puts a damper on spontaneity. As long as both the Dom and Sub are comfortable with what type of play is okay and what limits they can reach, the fun can really begin without fear of crossed wires or miscommunication. I know what you’re thinking, “Isn’t there a manual for such activities?’ There sure is, and after you download it for free you can skip ahead (no spoilers) to these issues being addressed around page 20.

For those looking to explore further into impact play, try taking a look at some of the instructional videos Kink Academy has, or stay tuned to the Wicked Wanda’s website for upcoming flogging workshops. You could also seek out the local or online community for other whip and flogging enthusiasts. There are some pretty tame beginner whips, flogs and crops available in store or online at Wicked Wanda’s, and you’ll never know how much you enjoy something until you give it a try!

Jean Samick

Sexpertise: Cock Rings

By Wicked Wanda's
on January 07, 2016
Sexpertise: Cock Rings

By: Jean Samick

Erections can be fickle. Gaining, maintaining and ensuring it is as hard as it can be is not easy for some. Cock rings can be used as an aide for maintaining an erection or just for fun making it harder than usual. Even if you have no problems in the bedroom, they can be a fun addition and can have all sorts of bells and whistles of attachments for your partner’s pleasure.

 Having some difficulty with erections is fairly common and happens to most men at some point in their lives. The communication between brain and penis can be a major culprit in losing an erection. In order to obtain an erection, the brain must work in conjunction with the rest of the body. Arousal from stimulation, either physical or audiovisual, tells the brain to send blood to the penis. This is a combination of hormones, blood vessels and nerves working together which means that often erectile difficulty can be emotional. Things like feelings of self-doubt or a fear of failure can give a person anxiety, as well as communication problems with a partner. Even feelings unrelated to sex can have an effect on a person’s erection, like feelings of anxiety, stress or depression from another aspect of life.

Erectile problems can be caused by disease like diabetes and high blood pressure, among others. Clogged arteries, high blood pressure and heart conditions are affected by a narrowing of the blood vessels and reduces the flow of blood to the penis. This is from plaque buildup in the arteries most typically linked to smoking, high cholesterol, obesity or excessive drinking. With all of these factors in play things can get tricky, and the issue may not be long running. A non-medical solution can help, and this is where the cock ring swoops in to save the day.

Now before you go tying things around your junk, let me explain how they work. In order to save yourself from an uncomfortable trip to the ER, make sure the cock ring you use is easily removed. Cock Rings can be made of almost anything; Metal, leather and different kinds of rubber are the most common, but include anything available restricting the blood flow out of the penis. If it’s rubberized, make sure it stretches enough that you can remove it comfortably post orgasm. If the cock ring is made out of something a little tougher like metal or leather make sure you’re familiar with how to remove it.

Cock rings often fit around the base of the penis but occasionally loop around both the penis and scrotum. They come in all different sizes for the variable rainbow of penises that could need them, but it’s typically frowned upon to try them on in store. It may be good practice to start with the rubberized variety packs of different rings as they’re easy to learn to use and have a few different gauged sizes for fairly cheap. If the silicone variety isn’t for you, another beginner option could be using one with snaps for a tighter fit. Once you’ve figured out your size and the type of material you’re most comfortable with, you can get a bit more creative with the options whether your solo or with a partner.

So as always, play safe and have fun with your options. Remember that baby steps are important for cock rings just like with any other bedroom aide, and that misuse can get dangerous (And a little embarrassing) pretty quickly. Just like with Viagra, if you have an erection that lasts longer than 4 hours, you may want to seek medical attention.

 

Jean Samick

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Sexpertise: Sounding

By Wicked Wanda's
on January 07, 2016
Sexpertise: Sounding

By: Jean Samick

For some, the idea of inserting anything into their urethra sounds at least mildly uncomfortable. Most aren’t exactly eager for catheters at the hospital, but to those who subscribe to a fetish known as “sounding’, catheters might actually be the upside to a procedure. Urethral Sounding is the insertion of probes known as “sounds’ into the urethra, the tube in your penis or vagina that connects to the bladder you urinate out of. Sounding can be incredibly pleasurable if done safely, but the risks associated with the process can lead to infection or damage of the tract.

Medically speaking, Urethral Sounding is a method used by professionals to widen the urethra to remove any obstructions or widen a stricture, which is a narrowing of the urethra as a result of Urinary Tract Infections (UTIs) or Urethritis. Sounds are traditionally made of metal like stainless steel (see Figure 1 - below), but can be soft or rigid items inserted into the urethra about halfway. Sounds can vary in length as well, ranging from those that can only be inserted a few inches to those that can be inserted into the bladder. The probes can be curved or have a bulbous head at the end, or in more extreme versions fish hooks at the end. Roughly 4–17 centimetres in diameter, these probes cause a pleasurable dilation effect when used for sounding. The urethra is filled with nerve endings and is quite sensitive, with the prostatic gland in the penis at the base. This means in addition to the tract itself being stimulated, the prostate can be stimulated as the sound is slid in and removed, triggering or intensifying an orgasm.

Now, all of this is based off the idea that you are using sterile tools for your fun. It is important to stress that anything foreign inserted into the urethra of questionable cleanliness is a very bad idea. At the very least, you run the risk of contracting UTI’s, tearing your urethra or contracting Urethritis. UTIs are also commonly known as bladder infections, and cause a burning sensation when urinating. The worst that could happen? Anything from creating a Blind Track which can lead to Peyronie’s Disease, to internal bleeding. Internal bleeding is pretty straightforward, but a blind track is when an insertion creates scar tissue that leads to plaque buildup in the penis, resulting in Peyronie’s. That plaque buildup leads to curvature or bend the penis when it becomes erect, which is quite painful and can be permanent. The likelihood of all of these risks increases when people use foreign objects such as wire, batteries or straws as sounds.

Playing safe can lead to pleasure and keep you out of the doctor’s office. Sounding kits are sold at Wicked Wanda’s, and the staff is happy to explain the different ways you can use these toys safely. Cleanliness is next to godliness in this case, so make sure you clean your instruments after every use. If you notice any discomfort urinating, head to the doctor. Don’t shorten your pleasure by damaging your goods!

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Jean Samick

Douching - Anal and Vaginal - The Facts

By Wanda Cotie
on January 07, 2016
Douching - Anal and Vaginal - The Facts

By: Jean Samick

Note from Lilith: Douching or enemas is a trend which we at Wicked Wanda’s are asked about quite a bit, especially the health concerns regarding it. While the saying “a fresh bum is a happy bum,” is used quite often when speaking of doing any kind of anal exploration, we wanted to get the health facts for you, courtesy of our newest blog writer Jean Samick. We wanted to get the down and dirty about vaginal and anal douching, not from an esthetic perspective but of a health one.

There’s a lot of talk about whether douching is as harmful as people claim, or whether it’s really just a nice way to stay fresh. For those who aren’t familiar, Douching is the washing or cleansing of the inside of the vagina or anus. A douche is a bag and is not just your cousin that broke your playstation as a teenager, but also a device with a tube or nozzle attached that is squirted upwards into the vagina or anus to purge. Water is the most common mixture, but baking soda, vinegar and iodine are also used.

 

Let’s start with the vagina. Healthy vaginas have a good and harmful bacterial balance that is compromised when a person douches. The bacteria helps protect against infections or irritation and naturally flushes blood, semen and discharge. Off-setting this balance by douching increases the risk of pregnancy, STI’s and HIV infections because the good bacteria that normally fights infection has been washed away. Infections that are most commonly linked to douching the vagina are Bacterial Vaginosis and Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. Both are fertility compromising infections that are caused by unbalancing the vaginal bacteria and being exposed to STI’s. Douching does not prevent or protect against pregnancy or STI’s, and often pushes the douche mixture into the uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. Douching post coital doesn’t protect against pregnancy and in fact it can lead to premature birth, damage to the fallopian tubes can put people at a higher risk for ectopic pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy occurs when the egg attaches itself to the inside of the fallopian tube instead of the uterus and can be life-threatening without treatment.

 

So douching the vagina is bad, but the bacteria in the anus isn’t affected the same way, right? While the bacteria culture of the rectum isn’t put at risk, the lining of the rectum is. Flooding the rectum with water ironically dehydrates the colon and makes it absorb fluid much faster. The result of this is the increase absorbency of a persons colon putting them at a greater risk of contracting an STI or HIV. Frequent anal douching can also make a person’s colon reliant on the purge for a bowel movement, causing greater intestinal problems down the line. Douching with anything other than water can irritate the lining again making a person more susceptible to contracting an STI or HIV.

 

Still doesn’t seem that bad? Here are some statistics: According to the U.S. Department of Health and Services those who vaginal douched once a month found it harder to become pregnant than those who did not, and were more likely to deliver a pregnancy earlier than those who did not. Those who douched once a week were also five times more likely to have Bacterial Vaginosis than those who did not. On top of that, the University of California published a study this past February showing that people were 74% more likely to contract an STI or HIV than those who did not douche.

 

If you’re douching because the vagina is irritated, painful, itchy or has a burning sensation a doctor should be consulted. Washing outside the vagina and anus with mild soap will not affect the bacteria inside, but may lead to dryness of the skin and irritation. Be good to your parts!

Jean Samick

Lilith: From the evidence reported by our lovely blog writer, it is best to stay away from vaginal douching all together but anal douching is alright in small doses. From Wanda herself, she recommends never to do vaginal douching and to do anal douching no more than once a week. If one is in the mood for deep anal penetration with a penis or strapon, then a rinse may make partners more comfortable but ultimately it comes down to being okay that “shit happens”.

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