People can experience real pleasure from watching porn, but it can also warp our expectations about sex when we use it in replacement of sex ed. Porn, like other media, needs to be consumed responsibly. Instead of advocating for the end of all porn, we should be advocating for better sex education and literacy tools so we can consume porn more responsibly as well as other forms of sexualized media that can distort ways people think about sex, bodies and relationships. The next release of this newsletter series will breakdown different types of porn and highlight research on the positive aspects of porn consumption.
Oral sex is a wonderful way to learn about your partner’s sexual response that can translate to enhanced sexual skills in other areas. With your tongue and mouth, you can pick up a lot of data about your partner’s sexual response because you can sense the nuances of how their body reacts very well. There is no straightforward one-size-fits-all approach for giving the best oral sex. Pleasure varies from person to person. Some penis-owners like a lot of kissing and licking; others just prefer their dick sucked. Some vulva-owners love their clit sucked intensely; while others prefer being penetrated with a tongue. It’s also important to honour the fluidity of desire. What someone wants one day may not be the same thing they want tomorrow. All this being said, there are some universal tips and tricks that can take your oral sex skills to that epic level:
The penis, either by being physically stimulated by the penis-owner themselves or by another person, is often the primary way that penis-owners initiate orgasms. In penis-owners, orgasm is a physiological release of neuromuscular tension paired with a tremendous feeling of pleasure and euphoria. Having an orgasm is not the same as ejaculating, although they often occur at the same time. Ejaculation is the pulsing contraction of the pelvic/penile muscles to emit semen from the body. Penis-owners usually ejaculate when they reach orgasm.
For the last few months, I’ve been hunting for a better vibrating cock ring to use during penetrative sex. I wasn’t fully satisfied with the cock rings in my collection because either the bands were uncomfortable for my penis-owning partner or the vibrating component of the ring was shaped in a way to give me broad stimulation versus the pin-pointed and intense stimulation I prefer on my glans clitoris. When I discovered that Fun Factory had designed a unique vibrating cock ring specifically with vulva-owners in mind, I knew I had to test it out.
Cock rings are a fun toy to add to your pleasure chest! Unfortunately, there is a misconception that penis bling is only for penis-in-vagina sex, but that is not true! A cock ring can be used during all kinds of sex, including solo play, partnered, multi-partnered, anal penetration, outercourse, and even on a dildo. So let's get into it!
First, separate the parts of the device. Pass the testicles, one-by-one, and then the non-erect penis through the cock ring. The ring will sit against the body to securely hold the device in place. Then, insert the non-erect penis into the cage. The testicles will hang outside the device. Once the penis is in the cage, lock the two parts together either using a padlock and key or the numbered plastic tags. Note that some penis chastity devices will not have two completely separate parts, but instead will have a hinge between the ring and the cage. These general guidelines may vary slightly from device to device.
"What is the best vibrator?" I've been helping people with their sex toy purchases for over a decade, and this is a question I get all the time; my response usually goes something like this, "well, that depends!", sex toys are like tools, they all do different things, and the best vibrator for you will depend on what gets your honey pot going. Think about how you masturbate or what you like to experience from a toy. Do you want to vibrator just for your clit? Do you want to experience g-spot stimulation?
The Arcwave Ion is unique from other masturbators because it provides stimulation that targets the shaft's underside and frenulum. The frenulum is one of the penises' most sensitive erogenous zones that can deliver knee-buckling orgasms. In fact, some sex educators and texts even categorize frenulum-based orgasms as a different type of orgasm, similar to clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms. Unlike other masturbators, you don't penetrate or 'thrust' the Arcwave, instead the penis is inserted and you allow the suction to do its thing. The Airpulse technology adds suction and pulses against the back head of the penis, which edges you towards an intense orgasm
Let's talk lube! Often overlooked or misunderstood, lube is an easy way to enhance your sex life. A personal lubricant works to reduce friction between your skin and the person/toy/body part(s) you’re getting hot and steamy with 😉
