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Ottawa, Canada
You bought the flogger.
Maybe the paddle too.
Now comes the part nobody teaches properly:
How to actually use them with confidence, connection, and skill.
Whether you are brand new to BDSM or looking to refine your technique, these private impact and sensation play coaching sessions are designed to help you move beyond guesswork and into intentional, confident play.
This is not a performance.
This is hands-on learning, individualized guidance, and real-time coaching tailored to your experience level, comfort, and goals.
Because anyone can swing hard.
It takes skill to create anticipation, rhythm, sensation, connection, and trust.
Every session is customized to you, but sessions may include:
How to safely use floggers, paddles, crops, and other impact tools
Warm-up techniques and body targeting
The difference between pain, sensation, rhythm, and psychological build
How to create intensity without losing connection
Reading your partner’s body language and responses
Pressure control, pacing, and finesse
Communication and consent during play
Scene flow and building anticipation
Aftercare and emotional connection after impact play
Whether you want soft teasing sensation play or heavier impact techniques, your session will meet you where you are.
Singles exploring impact play for the first time
Couples wanting to deepen trust and intimacy
People who bought tools but are unsure how to use them
Tops wanting to improve control and confidence
Curious beginners entering the BDSM scene
Experienced players wanting more precision and finesse
Already own a flogger or paddle? Bring it with you.
One of the biggest challenges people face is figuring out:
Why one tool feels amazing and another falls flat
How to hold and swing correctly
How to create different sensations intentionally
How to play safely while still creating intensity
These sessions give you the chance to learn directly from an experienced impact top with years of practical experience and a genuine passion for the craft of impact play.
Because great impact isn’t about brute force.
It’s about control. Timing. Precision. Presence.
And creating an experience your partner can fully sink into.
No awkwardness.
No pressure to “already know what you’re doing.”
No one-size-fits-all teaching.
Just individualized coaching designed to help you build confidence, skill, communication, and connection at your own pace.
$105 / hour
Individuals
Couples
New and experienced players
Authentic connection and play are vital to us as humans, BDSM and kink gives you the container to explore, learn and create — and positively impacts the rest of your life. As a Kink & Life Coach, Jamie (she/her) helps her clients navigate the desirable world of BDSM and kink, with safety education, and tools to connect to the deepest parts of themselves. The parts that the world has said to keep hidden. Through her personal journey, and coaching others, she understands that this is key in stepping into our individual power, and crafting the life we truly desire.
